Last week I had a therapy client tell me that she is trying her hardest not to think about her grief.
She felt that if she allows herself to think about it, she will entirely fall apart, but actually, the opposite is true.
We cannot run from our feelings because, well, emotions are meant to be felt.
Grief, trauma, and loss are some of the most terrible things we will experience as human beings. The feelings that come along with these times in our life are gut-wrenching. However, we do not do ourselves any favors by running from them. They (the feelings) will catch up to you, and when you least expect it, they will chase you down and knock you over from behind.
So turn, full-frontal, look them in the eye, and invite them in. Talk to them. Hello, sadness. I have not been looking forward to seeing you one bit, but you never go away. You are always here somewhere. So I cleared my entire afternoon to meet with you. What is it that you have come to tell me today?
Be prepared to sit quietly and listen to that message. It will not be easy, but you need to hear this message.
It would be best to take some time to work through it because this is the healthy thing to do. Are you afraid to meet with this pain alone? I understand. Invite a friend over to hold your hand, but this meeting with your feelings needs to happen at the end of the day.
Then hold on to this: To appreciate true beauty, we must understand actual loss. Life is made more beautiful because of the losses we suffer. We have a deeper understanding and appreciation for everything we see and touch in life because we do not take it for granted. We know how special it is.
Sit with your feelings. Give them time to hear what they have to say.
One day a window will open, and they will leave. You will be better, and life will be beautiful once again.
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